No what I've created for you here is a very special video.
NO know some people are going to find this video very special where other people might not find it so
special at all.
And the reason they want to build this into the section of the course because were still with the introduction
section is because there's going to be some people out there in the world who are just like me.
No one made a decision to become a life coach going back quite a number of years ago with no assurance
that Cher.
How many.
I just wanted to get started though when it comes to somewhere along there.
Go back to my time spent in school.
Used to call me names.
They used to call me and get these to call me sick because I wasn't a particularly visual or auditory
learner which meant that when I was sitting in a classroom the teacher could be speaking some stuff
out to me.
It was never how I allow.
And the teachers could then tell us to go away and read some textbooks.
And again my head just kids would struggle to process information via text a wasn't a visual error and
I wasn't really an auditory learner either.
The way that I always will and most effectively was through up placation through just trying stuff for
fun and learning by mistakes.
Unfortunately in life.
Many people were absolutely petrified of making mistakes.
And this is something that's going to become very evident to you that if you get out there and apply
anything there are going to be sharing with you through this course on other people.
People generally genuinely are petrified.
Often get a wrong in life.
But I was never really the case really because I fundamentally knew from a very young age that the most
effective way that I would learn was through applying stuff and making mistakes.
So if you're there today and you think know while the cane that just sounds just like me this is for
you.
But if you're saying no cane I like reading from textbooks and like taking notes knowing I can I think
there's nothing wrong with that.
That's fine.
It just means we have different learning styles.
Please don't hold that against me because it's good to be different and were all different aren't we.
So what I would like to share with you here right is another story.
Im not making any apologies for.
I'm not talking about anymore.
Gods here I'm talking about a real life experience something that I experience going back quite a number
of years ago that just really made sense to me called this some practical life wisdom because after
I'd started doing my best to read books I was watching videos on YouTube and you know study in some
of the world's greats like Doctor Europe and our Tony Robbins.
These were the guys that really influenced my thaine came right back at the start when I was studying
psychology sociology and life coaching and all these other various helping therapies know me being me.
I just jumped right then.
All right I just wanted to help everyone.
I want to be a life coach for everyone.
And living in Dunfermline faith there's no shortage of people who are gently needs some help.
So the approach that I took was as I was walking up the high street one day.
I found this guy sitting on the floor bear in mind and squall and there's a lot of guys who would sit
on the ground one pavement with a sign saying I'm hungry and homeless please give me some loose change.
No okay.
I'm not knocking anyone here.
After seven years sitting on the floor and holding the same sign.
You've really got to begin questioning how much responsibility they're willing to take for themselves.
Gone back seven years ago I'd recently returned back to Scotland from New Zealand so Dunfermline was
a new place to me.
Where are the guys who is around on the streets.
No I didn't understand back then that heroin addiction and method on addiction were actually real big
cultural problems here in Scotland.
Now if you've ever watched Trainspotting or Trainspotting to which has just come out that was all thurrock
Felt very locally near to where I live and the heroin addiction and methadone are real big problems
throughout society especially amongst many young people.
No this young guy who I'd walked past that day.
As things transpired I had a serious method of one stroke heroin addiction and had done for many years.
Now I figured back then because I knew some stuff and because my life was going in the right direction.
Back then that I could help them.
So for around about 18 months that followed as I was studying and learning.
I used to get him to my house for an hour he used to teach me and counsel when in coach.
And as I was learning I would just share everything that I had with him through everything that I had
all these all the ideas all the principles all the practices in thought but something would just stick.
But after 18 months nothing hard.
I was given this guy money.
I was buying meal I was buying him clothes and to be honest with you I'd actually become quite attached
to him.
Yes he was a rascal.
He was a roarke Yes he was still struggling with addiction I actually grew into quite a lot of the guy.
If that makes sense he was a he was a puddle and fundamentally understood him understood why it was
that he'd reach the stage in life.
No I had a mentor straut coach for myself back at the time and I was actually becoming quite disheartened
because I'm doing my best to impact this guy in court and teach him and momentum at the time a guy called
Jemmy.
I'd met him for a Starbucks coffee and I said to Jemmy I'm not sure if I am cut out for this life coaching
malarkey.
I'm just not sure if I'm good enough.
I've been I've been caught and I've been trying to coach and trying to mentoring and trying to teach
Chris for over 18 months now and I'm just getting nowhere.
Nothing's working.
And I was absolutely disheartened and Jemmy looked at me in the eye and he said Kane.
Have you ever watch Star Wars.
I said Star Wars Yeah course of watch Star Wars.
Everyone my age has seen Star Wars and he said well look if you watch Star Wars you'll know who must
you would it is then don't you.
And I said yeah I know who must say you would.
As I said Geno what our story would have said about trying.
I said No I don't have the faintest idea what master you would have said about trying.
You said Master your order said there is no try.
There is only do or don't do.
There is no try.
There is only do or don't do.
I said That's fantastic Jemmy.
But why are you telling me this.
This is Kane.
Are you getting exhausted with cress.
I said Yes I am.
I'm getting exhausted with him and I'm also getting to get quite disheartened he said.
Are you ready to learn.
The principal said there's a principle.
Why don't you teach me this a year and a half ago Jamie he said because sometimes were never going to
learn the lessons that we need to learn in life until we are ready to because sometimes people aren't
going to learn the lessons that they need to learn until they reach the end of their rope the end of
their tether.
That's true for me and it's also going to be true for you in some way.
So was Jemmy went on to share this principle with me.
Absolutely blew me away.
As he said Kane do you want to know the principle of helping people.
He says you can't help anyone who is not willing to help themselves and free you.
Jemmy said pokorney to me he said a Harp's cane.
You should stop wasting your time with a chrissie's of the world and start investing your time into
the kanes.
And as soon as I heard these words it was like bingo.
The lights went on.
I guess I wasn't able to see back then was what differentiated cress from me because I will share with
you later on in the course.
Much of my background usually comes from alcoholism drug addiction.
A bit of a rascal in the past myself.
I guess that's what I wanted was more for cress what he wanted for himself and moving forward into the
future and you can try your damnedest.
You can try your best to coach and mentor or counsel or teach or whatever it is you want to do onto
other people but unless they're willing to take that first step for themselves then all of your efforts
are always going to be entertained.
No that's a really crucial principle are I want to get this in writing the first section of the course
because some people are just going to take the stuff and run with it.
Other people are going to study it get a grounded understanding in view of practicing later on in the
future.
There's nothing wrong with both approaches.
Both are perfectly amicable so that's all I really want to share with yet.
And this video and I've got one more principle that I want to show next before we bring this introduction
section off the course to a close.
I find this useful.